HOW TO HANDLE BULLSHIT: BE LIKE FURIOSA
Had a call from a friend of mine this morning. She's dealing with sexism and racism from co-workers at the network TV show where she works. We discussed the situation, and the resolution that came out of it got us both super-psyched: Be like Furiosa in MAD MAX: FURY ROAD.
I'll expand without Spoilers. Furiosa, played by Charlize Theron, is on a mission, literally. Her mission is important to her. Because it's important, she is able to make quick decisions about who stands in the way of her mission, and what is best for her mission and where to spend her energy so that her mission is not interrupted.
People bringing you down at work? People offending you at work? Does it look like sexism? Probably is. How does it affect your mission?
Your mission is your career, your desire to share your stories with an audience, and to make a living at it.
You need to decide whether you can swerve around the obstacle at work, or whether you need to stop your War Machine and deal with it. Is it worth the time spent? The energy expended? Is this obstacle worthy of your attention?
Remember, you're on a mission, and time is of the essence. Particularly for those of us who are working mothers -- we don't have many resources, so we need to smart about how we spend them.
Would Furiosa stop and dispatch with this obstacle because otherwise the obstacle will surface again and impede her mission? Or is the obstacle something she can blaze past and leave in the rear-view, because her eyes are ahead and her mind is on the mission?
Try on her point of view. Don't let the little people tear your down. Don't let them take away from your mission. Deal with what deters from your work. This is another version of: Don't let the haters bring you down.
(On a practical note, even when you decide to blaze past the obstacle, write it down and email it to yourself: the what and the when. If the situation blossoms into something that should be brought to a higher-up or HR, you want an accurate record. )